Monday, March 2, 2009

our planning :: 20 :: the big day

'Tis the end to a fun journey! Sadly, I've reached the finale of my "planning" posts. I've approached the BIG DAY, and I had a great time sharing some of the things Abram and I went through during our planning. I really hope some of you learned something! Again, my posts are truly just my opinion and in all good intent. Planning will always vary from couple to couple, but at least you were able to get some insight to the curve balls Abe and I were thrown and advice that reflects how we caught those curve balls. There are so many other topics I could blog about, but I wanted to leave the newly engaged couples other experiences to look forward to. Yes, some things were easy, but some things were SUPER challenging. The biggest challenge? Learning to let go of things that just wouldn't or didn't work. Practice this and you'll be one happy camper, as your big day will go as it was meant to be. Last words of advice: 1) Step back and ask yourself if the planning makes sense, and 2) make your wedding your own, incorporating personal touches that are only characteristic of you and your fiancée. Do these things and not only will your guests remember and appreciate a well-executed wedding, but you will enjoy and cherish what you've spent all year long working on even more. Thanks for stopping by our blog! We truly appreciate your daily visits. :)

Some things I missed but wanted to share:

  • Marriage license: You and the fiancée will go together to obtain your marriage license from the city. Bring valid IDs and a check book. It's a fairly quick process, but obviously an important one. It is good for 90 days, so you won't be able to tackle this until 3 months before the wedding. You will have to designate two witnesses to sign the license at the ceremony -- you can choose any one to do this (a sponsor, godparent, parents, sisters, MaOH, best men, children 18+yrs, etc).
  • Programs/Escort Cards/Name Cards Schedule. These small details do take a lot of time to assemble. Unfortunately, you won't be able to start these until you have received all responses and finalized your head count. Reality is, that doesn't happen till about a month before the wedding. No worries, these details are almost always assembled during the last month or two before the wedding. Most brides experience this. Just take in a breath of fresh air; you're not alone and it will get done!

  • Shoes: Ladies, it's ok to spend a little more on comfortable shoes. And try to stay in your heels at least half way through the reception. You're still taking photos and last thing you want are photos with a thrashed bottom due it to being dragged across a wet, alcohol lathered dance floor! Yikes! I splurged on my shoes because I wanted to avoid walking around in house slippers -- totally worth my $. I bought 3.5 inch Stuart Weitzman heels that I was able to walk in ALL night with no complaints. Another brand that sells low-mid heels, and are super comfortable: Via Spiga.
  • For the tears: (Grooms) Tuck a tissue in one of your pockets. Keep this in the event your bride starts to tear, or you do!, during the ceremony. Nothing more sweet than seeing the groom take out a tissue to wipe his bride's tears. Ladies, steer clear of tucking any tissue in your dress. It might not look lady-like to pull a tissue from in between your bosom.
  • Bouquet/Photo's sake: Difficult to remember, but try to hold your bouquet at an angle and waist-height. It's challenging, esp if the bouquet is heavy, but we want to see your beautiful face! And dress! I've seen many brides that "hide" behind their bouquet. :( (I did a good job walking towards the aisle, but on the way back, I started to raise my bouquet!..I think it was heavy. Now, I'll only have photos of us walking down the aisle together with a bouquet that covers my entire chest. *sigh)

  • Saying something? I love when couple's say a little something to the guests. Even a simple "thank you for coming" sentence or two is great. Do this at every celebratory event. (I know, I'm totally cracking up. Abram makes everyone laugh....)

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